Unapologetic
The Unapologetic Circle is a monthly gathering for women in the middle of life who are done pretending.
Nothing is required of you except honesty.
You are tired of being the one who holds the room.
You are the one everyone comes to. The steady one. The one who makes it work. And at the end of the day, you have nowhere to put it down.
You have a full life. A full calendar. People who love you and rely on you. And still, there is a loneliness that none of it touches.
You have scrolled past a hundred women's events and kept going, because the thought of being told to set an intention or share your wins makes you want to leave before you arrive.
You do not need to be inspired. You need to be in a room where you do not have to perform.
Upcoming gatherings
April: Unknowing The world rewards having the answers. This evening explores what becomes possible when you put down the map of who you used to be. Inspired by Rebecca Solnit's A Field Guide to Getting Lost, we sit with the quiet beauty of not knowing what comes next, and the relief of letting that be enough for now. You do not need to have read the book to attend.
Reserve your place for April.
May: Desire After years of managing everyone else's comfort, listening to your own wanting is a radical act. Guided by Ross Gay's The Book of Delights, we practice the micro-skill of noticing what brings us alive in the middle of a demanding life. Not a grand passion. The small, specific sparks of energy that you have been overriding. You do not need to have read the book to attend.
Reserve your place for May.
June: Sovereignty This evening anchors the internal shift that has been building. Using Jeanette Winterson's Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? as our touchstone, we explore what it takes to outgrow the expectations that built your life and to stand in the quiet authority of who you are becoming. You do not need to have read the book to attend.
A curated, intimate evening held once a month for a small group of women. Each gathering is anchored by a theme and a book that gives the evening its emotional shape. The space is warm. The facilitation is steady. There is no advice, no fixing, no networking, and no requirement to share anything you are not ready to say.
Women return. Not because they are asked to, but because something in the room is real.
This is for you if
You are a woman in the middle of life who has built something real and is quietly exhausted by the performance of holding it all together.
You want to be in a room with other women who will not ask you to be impressive, and where you will not have to explain why that matters.
You have no interest in networking, affirmations, or group exercises. You want depth, presence, and the experience of being seen without having to produce anything in return.
You are not looking for answers. You are looking for one evening where you do not have to pretend.
Practical details
Monthly, 4:00 to 6:00 PM Godmothers Bookstore, Summerland, California
Please arrive at 3:45 PM to settle in before we begin. Limited to 20 women.
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